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One of the most common things I hear from people who have set aside their calling is that they cannot return to it because of what it would mean for their partner or family. The return would require a conversation that feels dangerous.
The person who fell in love with you — what did they fall in love with? Who were you when they first knew you?
The people around us know us better than we give them credit for. Your partner who married the person who used to play guitar at 6am has been living with someone who stopped playing. They noticed. They may not have said anything, because you did not invite the conversation. But they know.
The conversation you are afraid of having is not, in most cases, news. It is the making explicit of something that has been present and unnamed. Making the unnamed explicit is hard — but it is almost never as catastrophic as the loop you have been running.
The version of you that is slowly disappearing into practicality is not what the person you love wanted. They wanted you. The calling is part of you. The return to it is not a betrayal. It may be what the relationship has been waiting for.
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